I want you to take a moment to think about how you treat yourself when you make a mistake or fail to smash a target. If you’re one to beat yourself up when things don’t go as you’d like, you, like most people, can use a little more self compassion in your life.
Nurturing and forgiving yourself has a lot of very subtle benefits. Strong self-compassion can even set the stage for better health, relationships, and general well-being. Research has proven a number of self-compassion benefits. People with higher self-compassion tend to have lower depression and anxiety levels. Self-compassionate people recognize when they are suffering and are kind to themselves at these times, thereby lowering their own levels of related anxiety and depression.
Some people are naturally self-compassionate, but not everyone is. Luckily, it is a learnable skill. Several methods have been proposed, and training programs are being developed, to help people discover and cultivate their own self-compassion.
However, I’ll be listing ways you could boost your self-compassion skills
Always make your body feel at ease. Eat something healthy. Lie down and rest. Massage your own neck, feet, or hands. Take a walk and get some fresh air. Anything you can do to boost how you feel physically gives you a dosage of self compassion.
Write a letter to yourself. Recall instances that have caused you to feel pain (a breakup with a lover, an employment loss, a poorly delivered presentation). Write a letter to yourself narrating the conditions that made things go south, but without blaming anyone — including yourself. Use this exercise to nurture your feelings.
Encourage yourself. Think of what you would say to a friend you’re very fond of if he or she was facing a difficult situation. Then, when you find yourself in this kind of situation, direct these compassionate responses toward yourself.
Practice mindfulness. Go for a quick run, meditate for a few minutes, all these can be a great way to accept and support yourself when things are not going so great.